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How solo traveling has got me addicted to evolvement

1/16/2018

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I often come across this question - "Why do I travel solo". Solo traveling for me is not a style-statement. I started traveling solo after various failed attempts in planning trips with friends. And more importantly failed executions on trips because each one had a different purpose to travel. Some friends wanted to get drunk and high on trips, some friends wanted attention from the opposite sex in the group, some friends wanted to enjoy swimming pool in a resort and some wanted to spend hours in the room dressing up before venturing out. When I realised that my purpose was not aligned to any of these, I was forced to travel solo. I have  an unmatchable level of energy on my travels. Solo traveling eventually became a way of life for me. 
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1. I realised I’m responsible for my own happiness

With lot of importance given to codependent relationships in our society, most of us fail to understand that nobody else is responsible for your happiness except you. Being forced to believe in codependency, I too had a hard time learning this through my solo travels. Being constantly surrounded by people in my regular life - friends, colleagues, family, I never got a chance to realise this. When I started traveling solo surrounded with strangers everywhere, when I had some travels gone wrong, when I had to take charge of everything around me, in strange lands, I learnt taking responsibility for my own happiness.
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2. I started respecting every individual

Earlier, the only people I used to connect with were the ones who shared similar interests as me (sports, dance, outdoors) and would talk a similar language (sarcasm, logic) as I did. I completely ignored the rest of the world. I’m glad that traveling taught me the importance of every individual on planet. Because I traveled solo, I had to rely on the locals a lot to understand their region. They neither spoke my language (sarcasm) neither did they dance salsa and bachata, but I had so much to learn from them. On my travels I discovered that simplest of the people won my heart the most.
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3. I learnt to handle failures, I learnt to let go

I had grown up as an achiever, topping the school every year, winning almost all the competitions in my town, getting degree of my choice, cracking interviews of the companies I desired to join. If ever I fail in achieving my target, I would find faults with myself and come back with my improved self to “Achieve” it. I was always in competition with myself if not with anyone else. I had never learnt to handle failures until I started trekking. Time and again I had to give in to the mighty mountains, powerful nature and failed expeditions with reasons beyond anyone’s control. I also landed up with few misadventures on my travels, where the only option was to be happy with the available alternatives. I learnt to let go of my plans and make the most of what I have. Life was easy when I stopped craving to control everything around me. Learning to handle failures was actually a win for me, I learnt to win over my ego.
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​4. I became humble

So used to excelling at most of the things I took up, I had an arrogant side to my personality which I had overlooked for years. Mountains humbled me with its majesty and so did the great people I met on the road. The skilled locals on the mountains who helped me achieve my “dreams” of climbing the peaks, the ones who saved my life when I had risked myself to near-death situations, the crazy travelers who had traveled across the globe and had so much knowledge to share, the achievers who had scaled so many heights in various walks of life - each one who really impressed me had one thing in common - humility. I was far from being humble compared to them, but I learnt how important it is. Today, when people appreciate my humility, I feel evolved.
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5. I learnt to go with the flow

When I planned my travels and wanted to execute the plan in the most efficient way, many a times I lost the fun of enjoying the moment. There were times when I would uncover something really interesting about some place and would have loved to spend more time there, but to be on the plan, I had to miss out on enjoying that moment. That’s when I started backpacking, with absolutely no plan, no bookings, so that I had the flexibility of spending time the way I felt then. I even stopped researching much about any new destination I wanted to visit, apart from the local transportation. And I realised I actually loved being in the moment. I started enjoying my life even more when I could implement this to my life in general. It takes away a lot of burden and lets me cherish every moment. I have no plans for my life, the only aim in life is to evolve!
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My travels have opened up my mind in many different directions and I know I’ve a lot more to learn. I kept evolving with my travels and this is a serious addiction!

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7 Comments
Ritu Kapse
1/16/2018 12:14:51

I have been following your travels since some days and very much resonate with the way you travel. I also call Himachal my first home, love travelling solo, but when people ask me why, I am unable to voice the exact reasons. I read your reasons and I was like.. yes this is exactly it !!
I felt that your article rings of genuineness and heartfelt emotion Medhavi. I read what you are doing and somehow feel better about my job and the regular life. Keep being this awesome and inspiring :)

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Medhavi Davda link
1/16/2018 16:11:13

Hey Ritu,
I clear out the thoughts in my head for quite a few days before I put up any post. So yes, you are right, each word comes out straight from my heart :)
Happy to hear that you share similar ideas about solo traveling and glad I could help you find reasons for "solo Traveling"
Happy travels to you

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My Unfinished Life link
1/22/2018 15:21:57

A very insightful post.... I have read your earlier posts too on switching jobs and taking care of your life and goals... It's interesting how travel has had a huge impact on you as a person.

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Dharmesh
1/23/2018 13:52:11

Humility can be learnt from anyone. Be it any road side worker. Dont you think you had to spend much time and resources to learn humility :P ?

On a serious front, struggles make one evolve because that forces introspection. Our ego inflates on getting fame, money and power and a dejection or a fall in any area bursts its inflation. We come back to our inner center when we fail. And that is where we learn to be balanced. And this balance helps us see the duality of life. Once anyone learns to withstand duality , he sets up himself on a right spiritual path.

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Yukesh
3/20/2018 19:46:31

"Today, when people appreciate my humility, I feel evolved."
The best step forward is feeling fresh and fabulous on the inside. Keep going!

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sushmita kapoor link
7/4/2018 10:34:40

i am your follower since some days
I felt that your articles are heartfelt emotion keep posting such articles...

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Ami Thakkar
8/2/2018 15:27:12

Lovely article.... Stunning words!! <3

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    Namaste! I'm Medhavi Davda.
    I travel to Evolve..
    In Nature, I confide..
    I find my calling in the Himalayas..
    In the Oceans, I meditate..

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    A High-Altitude Trekker & PADI certified SCUBA Diver, I love exploring the heights and depths of the planet with my regular doses of mountains and oceans.
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    Discovering myself & life through nature, adventures, travels, sports and dance has been an addiction since my existence!

    Quite fond of the  natural & cultural diversity of India, I've travelled extensively in my own country before exploring international destinations.
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    I had left my 9+ yrs of career in Software Industry in a quest to make a living out of my passions. I packed my basics in my car (gave away the rest) and lived in different parts of Himachal Pradesh for 16 months. This invaluable time taught me to experience life from a broader perspective.
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    I'm currently living in Mumbai to work with an Adventure Travel company as a product manager for Scuba Diving. I continue living a minimalistic life.

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